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The Warrior Sage will deviate some today to explore a deeper philosophical issue: The Impact of Individual False Core Beliefs on Organizational Behavior. So if you are not in the mood for a long read, "ta ta" or "come back later." I will draw extensively from If the Buddha got Stuck by Charlotte Kasl, Ph.D.
We bring to the workplace individual core beliefs that emerged in infancy and took shape as we grew. These beliefs further form as a result of "millions of interactions over the years with our parents, families, and social system." These interactions include that which we perceive, that which we feel, and that which we conclude. We humans, turn them into realities. Dr. Kasl reminds us that these are false core beliefs. A sample includes:
- I am defective
- I am shameful
- I am unlovable
- I am powerless over my life
- I am unwanted
- I will always be abandoned
- My body is defective or shameful
- I am worthless
- I am inadequate
- I don't exist
- I am alone
Pick any one of these beliefs that resonate and you won't feel so good about yourself. Naturally, humans want to avoid pain and anxiety. So we transform our false core believes into a course of action and behaviors that "provide an illusory escape from the dreaded feelings associated with our false core beliefs." No, I am not going to turn this into some therapy session but let's play out one of these false core beliefs in the workplace:
If someone's fundamental core false belief is I am worthless, compensating behaviors include things like:
- Being achievement oriented to the point of overachievement
- Needing people to notice "me;" being the center of attention
- Being right all the time; being the "smartest"
- Wanting more money
- Working on and accomplishing more tasks
- Saying "yes" to every request for help
Stephen Wolinsky reminds us, "the problem is that they don't work because concepts such as lovable, worthwhile, powerful, and shameful are mental constructs based on conditioning and are not who we really are. In other words, you don't disprove something that doesn't exist to begin with."
We are born without these beliefs. We are born in a state of being, "I Am." "BE" in a moment without language, without mental description and we are without ego. We are without the need to be praised, without the need for more money, without the need to feel loved or important. Shhhh. Shh. Shh. Shh. Shh. This is not a moment to say "but...." or "quip..." or ...that is your mind playing with you. This is a moment without your false core beliefs.
